What is sexual consent in a healthy relationship?

Consent means communication every step of the way and no assuming your partner is comfortable with actions. 

It requires a clear and enthusiastic YES.  Saying “yes” to one thing doesn't imply “yes” to something else.

If someone seems unsure, stays silent, doesn’t respond, or says “maybe,” they aren’t saying yes.

Why is consent necessary? 

Consent is an absolutely necessary part of a healthy relationship.

It is a way to make sure everyone feels safe, comfortable and respected.

Why is it important to make sure that the person you’re with has given consent?

It’s your responsibility to make sure that the person you’re with is happy and comfortable because non-consensual sexual activity (anything from touching and kissing to penetration) is against the law. 

Not only is it a crime, but the emotional consequences of rape and sexual assault can last a lifetime.

How can you negotiate consent?

One of the best ways to determine if someone is uncomfortable with any situation, especially a sexual one, is to simply to ask them.

Questions you could ask:

• ‘Is there anything that you don’t want to do?’
• ‘Are you happy with this?’
• ‘Is this ok?’
• ‘Are you comfortable?’
• ‘Do you want to stop?’
• ‘Do you want to go further?’

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